The purpose of the eulogy is to pay tribute to the deceased as a distinct individual, with unique talents and gifts, who will live on in the memories of the people who loved him. You are not only talking about the death of a loved one but also about how that person lived their lives.
Perhaps you're not accustomed to public speaking, and the mere thought of speaking in front of a crowd makes you nervous. While such responses are fairly common, there's really no cause for worry. If your family is part of a religious community and the deceased would have wanted a religious service then you can look to your minister, rabbi, or priest to help guide you through making arrangements.
In some situations you may be speaking about the person from one point of view, family, work colleagues, golfing buddies, or whatever. A poem for the deceased that prompts that thought is invaluable after a loved one has died. Even if they do not have anything in mind, it helps a lot on the part of a grieving person to know that he is surrounded by friends that care for his welfare.
Above all, remember to breathe. To be asked to deliver a memorial tribute is to be given the responsibility of assisting many.
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